Anxiety. My life story. External and internal support. What is it and why?

Anxiety. This feeling haunted me for a week, did not allow me to focus on work, important matters and thoughts. Lots of unanswered messages and abandoned cases, and subsequently a waste of time. There was no strength emotionally.

Not a very pleasant feeling. For me, it’s like a “splinter” that you see, but it’s hard to get it. To me, that’s worse than fear.

Having started to look for and realize causes/effects, I came to the conclusion that I did not feel the main support in myself.

What do you think is the difference between internal and external support?

How often do we rely on external support, namely: money, family, friends, work, etc., believing that this will be enough. And if you imagine that at one moment this is not there, what next …

Over the past week, I have become convinced that this does not give you any guarantees, and the “splinter” will still sit and make you uncomfortable.

To be honest, as soon as the external support gave a little glitch, the anxiety said “Hello, I’m here for you”.

Of course, I’m not one of those who get depressed, although such a thought slipped through in my mind . But, since I immediateled idle this whole further chain, I understand that: “oh no, that too much.” Then you need to get out of it somehow, and this is the time, also psychosomaticswill connect And so on, even then it’s not my option.

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So what does the concept of “External support” and “Internal support” mean and how to build it for yourself?

* How to understand what internal support means and how to build it in yourself?

In a simplified version, this is a state that gives you a feeling of confidence and security. Regardless of external circumstances, you will be able to solve any “problems” that have arisen more rationally and as comfortably as possible for yourself. Remaining at the same time in the resource and contact with yourself.

Suppose that all external factors (external support), namely money, work, family, friends .., thanks to which you feel safe, are sharply removed from your life. What then will be left? Will you be able to cope on your own, emotionally endure and resist the problems that have fallen on you? I don’t think so… It takes time, which sometimes simply does not happen, you need to act clearly and quickly. This is where the importance of having an internal support is revealed, which is controlled and created only by you yourself.

What helps to build “IS” ?

1.Contact with your body ( my favorite section ). You can talk about it for a long time. In short, it is the feeling of stability in the body, the awareness that you are “here” now.
2. Knowing and understanding your values. What is important to you now. This is what gives you the strength to move forward and inspires you.
3. Knowing and understanding your strengths. Knowing yourself, you can build a foundation that you can use for yourself at any time.
4. Think about what made you better, what events and situations made you stronger. Having experience in the past, transform it into the present, as if “leaning” on it.

I hope that the article was interesting and useful for you! Know and strengthen yourself at all levels of thinking and spheres of life. With the warm feelings to everuone, Viktoriia.